“Mystery is not always about traveling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes”
Why do we cheat? What can be learned from those who have dipped a toe in the infidelity pool? Do you ever wonder how some people stay committed and others cannot? Why some relationships crumble a mere 84 months after a passionate romance? And others move toward the golden years arm in arm on the front porch swing.
Ether Perel, a Belgian psychotherapist was so curious about what makes men and women cheat that she penned, Mating in Captivity where she examines how marriage has evolved into the myriad of responsibilities we put upon our partners today. Responsibilities which were fulfilled by multiple different people just a short time ago.
Esther is unbiased and frank. She speaks about the motivations behind our actions in relationships, even those we are ashamed of, cheating, porn, etc. Her YouTube channel holds a growing library of her talks uncovering the unspoken themes behind seemingly healthy relationships.
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What’s most encouraging is Esther’s hope for authentic relationships even after we realize how screwed up we are when it comes to expressing our needs as they relate to intimacy. Esther pokes fun at the idea that Victoria’s Secret can save a doomed relationship or bring it back to the thrill it once held.
Esther teaches us is relational resilience in the area of intimacy. Growing together; understanding as well as respecting our partners needs and desires while finding space to express our own. Esther can teach us to love ourselves and our partners with new eyes. To create a relationship that is not just surviving but thriving.
Many thanks to Esther for her commitment to helping humans love each other with acceptance and wisdom. Please connect with Esther via her website and blog.
Enjoy the day and Stay Wise.